New Chapter for Friday Hate, Monday Love
Friday Hate, Monday Love
Juli_Min5 Reviews | 8.0/10 (5 Ratings, 0 Likes, 11 Favorites )
A belated answer to Nocturnus? Abuse! Challenge at WIKTT. This story therefore contains abusive patterns though no overt physical violence. (no rape either)
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Juli_Min
Member Since 2005 | 11 Stories | Favorited by 7 | 21 Reviews Written | 89 Review Responses
I was born in Berlin (Germany) on the 10th of January. I'm happily married to an American. My greatest passions are writing, reading and drawing pictures. I spend a lot of time on the computer (especially in winter) because I want to know everything and the internet is the best way to sate my hunger. I became addicted to Harry Potter when reading it to my young cousins.
Reviews for Friday Hate, Monday Love
You said in a reply to one of the other reviews:
"the other challenge answers only covered the direct physical violence of such relationships."
I've spent most of my life dealing with physical and mental abuse from first family and later in relationships and believe me, the mental abuse is worse than the physical in many ways. People simply don't understand what it is like to go through and how difficult it is to break free, how you cannot help but blame yourself and how (often) abusive people can appear to be anything but to the outside world. In both of the abusive relationships I found myself apologising and guiltridden for leaving - even after years of emotional and physical trauma - and my own self-worth so low that I couldn't even meet people's eyes. I spent years apologising for their behaviour and blaming myself. I'd like to say that I don't do that anymore... but it's a lot harder to stop than most people would understand.
Thank you for writing this story. It made my stomach clench in discomfort but that is a good thing. Too many abuse/rape fics just don't hit the spot and yours goes right to the heart of the mental issues. Well done.
Response from Juli_Min (Author of Friday Hate, Monday Love)
Thanks for the review. Yes, it is an uncomfortable topic but something that should be talked about. A good friend of mine was is an abusive relationship and it nearly ended in suicide.Mental abuse is something that you can't easily prove to others and that's what makes it so hard for the victims. It's so hard when nobody believes you, calls you a liar ect. I didn't cover that part of it in the story but I think it is what makes it even more difficult to break through the circle of abuse.Anyway, thanks for the review. And sorry that it took so long to answer.Juli
Hi
God, I was reading your story and how she feels and I was just nodding throughout because it reminded me of two relationships I was in. I knew it was wrong when I got out of them but didn't take it very seriously because no one I know did, you know? I even end up defending my decision to leave most of the time. That it's actually a form of abuse... The thought never crossed my mind until now. And that list at the end; I could nod at almost every point. Horrible. Just horrible.
But I think, even though I'm crying right now, I must thank you for opening my eyes.
Needless to say I liked your story very much. It described everything perfectly.
Thank you.
bye,
shali
Response from Juli_Min (Author of Friday Hate, Monday Love)
Oh, wow. I must say that I'm really glad that you got out of this relationships. It's not easy, because people don't believe you that you feel abused. This story records what a friend told me about his relationship. He needed to defend himself as well when he left hi girlfriend.People might understand that you leave someone who is violent but someone who tells you that they'd not be able to live without you. It's very difficult.Even in our stories there is so much abuse wrapped into romance, I never really thought about it before I wrote this story.I thank you for the very open review. I hope you are better now, and that you'll never have to go through something like that again.
Yes, excellent. Not too many people understand the thoughts that go through the head of one who is abused ... that it makes one dependent on the abuser, even when going through the worse times. You did an excellent job portraying this love-hate relationship.
Response from Juli_Min (Author of Friday Hate, Monday Love)
Thank you. The reason why I wrote it that way is because I was very shocked that the other challenge answers only covered the direct physical violence of such relationships.I had a friend in a situation like that not to long ago, and his thoughts about his girlfriend and her actions were really disturbing to me.
I look forward to seeing where this goes and how she breaks this cycle or if he changes. Is he forced to treat her this way so he can show the Dark Lord he has a little slave? My enquiring mind.... lol
Response from Juli_Min (Author of Friday Hate, Monday Love)
Oh, I'm unsure myself. For now it will stay a one-shot but I think I'll pick the story up again when I have more time one my hands.
Response from Southern_Witch_69 (Reviewer)
OH, I'm sorry! LOL. I didn't realize it was just a one shot. I guess we can fill in the rest how we want until you decide if you feel like having more with it. :)
been there and done that - sadly enough
Response from Juli_Min (Author of Friday Hate, Monday Love)
Oh, I sorry that you had to go through something like that. It's really more common than I thought.