Is It Hard For You to Love Me

WOOOOOOHOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!That is amazing!  Oh, best of luck to you.  Gerard sounds like your true soulmate.  I know how much it hurts when other people are involved... the night I left my first husband - although I knew I was doing the absolute right thing - I went to my mom's house and cried so hard I actually got a nosebleed!  But I couldn't be happier now... and I couldn't be happier for you!!!!It's impossible to go through life without getting hurt, and without hurting others.  It happens... it will most likely happen with you and Gerard, too.  But you won't go wrong if you follow your heart.Yay!  I'm so happy!  I'm off to do a lot of smiling now!~ jPS - Can I come to the wedding?

Oh, Mistress...I'm sure this is none of my business, but I'm going to tell you how I feel about things, and about my life.When I entered college almost 20 years ago (holy crap!) I met a wonderful guy who quickly became my best friend.  My mother wanted us to be together (although we were both seeing other people at the time) but we knew that we were destined to be nothing but friends.  Over the years we became a part of each other's everyday lives, and although we knew that we were perfect for each other on paper, we also knew that the feelings just weren't there.  But he remained the one person that I always ran to when I needed to feel better, and I remained the one person that he could truly be himself with.  10 years ago I got married.  My best friend was one of my ushers, and I had a special song dedicated to him that we danced together to.  (On a side note, my irrepresive mother made remarks to my sister that HE was the one I should have married!  Nice, huh??)   One year later, he moved across the country.He was miserable living out there, and I was miserable without him.  The high point of my day was when I would get to work each morning, because more often than not there would already be a message from him on my voice mail.  He came back that Christmas to visit, and we were inseparable while he was here.  I felt like I could breath again.  Two months later... on my birthday... he moved back.  Yay!!  He was the only one I spoke to about the problems with my husband.  He was the one who held me when I cried, and - invariably - made me laugh.  In November of that year, I left my husband.  Within a month, my best friend and I realized that we couldn't be without each other.  This December will mark our 6th wedding anniversary.I know how hard it is to love someone when you're with someone else.  I know how unfair it feels, and the guilt that goes along with it.  But I am a firm believer that you don't do ANYONE any favors by staying in a relationship that is not right.  Even if my best friend and I had not been falling in love, I would have left my first husband, for the simple reason that I knew that he was not the one.It is possible for your dreams to come true.  It is so rare, and so beautiful... I would hate to see someone waste their chance.  People may get hurt, but people do recover.I wish you the best of luck, and I hope that you get your true heart's desire.Love,Jackie

Something about this one reminds me of a haibun.  (Just in case you've never heard of that particular form, a haibun is a form of Japanese poetry; in its English form it is basically a descriptive paragraph in poetic language; it ends in a bold line that's separated from the rest of the poem which acts as a sort of summary, kind of like a photograph with a caption.)

And you're right; life's not easy.  I sometimes think that we tend to overcomplicate things, though I'm not sure if it's intentional or not. 

I thought that this was very touching.  There's very little that I can give by way of criticism—but then, not everything has to be taken apart and analyzed.  I look forward to reading more poems like this should you decide to post them.

On a personal note, I wish you luck as well; I can certainly sympathize, as I've suspected for quite some time that I've met my own soulmate though (for various reasons) there will probably never be anything between he and I but a friendship with some strange overtones.

In any case, good work.  Keep it up. =) 

Very lovely (pardon the pun)—and congratulations!